Affection
I'm a touchy-feely person, there's no denying that. I'm a big believer in physical displays of affection. I have no problems hugging the people I love and I'm definitely a cuddler.
I'm also a very affectionate person. It's natural for me to impulsively hug one of my friends, just because I feel like it. It's my way of expressing my affection for that person. I was raised in a very affectionate households where hugs were freely given. My parents showered me with displays of affection and I pass that onto the people I love.
Maybe, it makes some people uncomfortable, but it's who I am. I try not to hug people who I know it makes uncomfrotable, but with my closest friends it comes very naturally. In fact, I have a few friends with whom I have very touchy-feely, yet totally platonic relationships.
However, while i'm a very physically affetionate person, I am not a promiscuous person. It bothers me when people decide that just because I am very open with displays of affection, I must also be a slut.
I have a few very close male frineds and yes, I'm affectionate with them. But I'm not going to sleep with any of them. They're my friends. I'm not about to sleep with Taela and she and I are very affectionate, so why would I sleep with one of my guy friends, when I'm affectionate with them?
Maybe I'm over-reacting and am just too sensitive, but this was just something that was on my mind and that was bothering me.
4 Comments:
Preach it! Some of us actually have the balls to set limits on friendships and stick to them. You're one of those people.
And secondly- I've even been branded as a slut before (why? no freaking clue) and I'm as far from touchy-feely as you can get! It's not even a matter of pure speculation, it's a matter of paranoia. And some people just can't get over it.
I like this topic.
I've always prefered an unspoken hug over a thank you, welcome back, or an apology. Though this is somewhat hypocratic on my part because I dont make physical contact much with anyone, simply because I like to respect thier personal space and comfort.
I adopted that after once trying to hug Tara.
After trying to hug me? LOL!
I personally admit I probably have some sort of minor phobia involving touching other people. And I mean any touching really. So, yes, I do have personal space issues...
Of course, that somehow excludes sexual circumstances. lol...
*evil grin*
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